Coming Home Counseling

Have you ever reached a point where you are exhausted and tired out carrying a load that you don’t even know you are carrying? Have you been going through emotional problems with a marriage that just isn’t getting anywhere? Or a job that you don’t like and you are stuck in it? You have done everything you can think of to try to make it work. I want you to look at these scriptures and meditate on them because they all say that He is a God that is able.

Ephesians 3:20”Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly beyond all that I ask or think according to the power that works within us. Able here means He is qualified to do this. Able also means He has the power and ability to move something. It really isn’t about asking God to do something it is believing He has ability to do it.

2 Timothy 1:12 “For I know whom I have believed and I am convinced that He is able to guard what I have entrusted to Him until that day. So convincing God isn’t the problem here it is convincing my heart that He is able to guard what I entrust Him with.

Hebrews 7:25 “Therefore He is able or very capable to save completely those who draw near to God through Him, since He always lives to make intercession for them. So He is able to save those completely who draw near to God through Him and He makes intercession for you.

Hebrews 11:19 “He (Abraham) considered that God is able to raise people even from the dead. Wow! Has God ever done that? It seems Jesus raised Lazarus from the dead as well as many others.

Jude 1:24 “Now to Him who is able to keep you from stumbling and make you to stand in the presence of the Lord blameless with great joy. Is He able to do this? Don’t I have to help Him do this? You know it really never mentions you helping God do these things. Isn’t it interesting that God is able to do this without your help? He really was doing this before you came along.

Matthew 9:28 “When He entered the house a blind man came up to Him and Jesus said to them. “ Do you believe that I am able to do this? The said Yes Lord then He touched their eyes saying”It shall be done to you according to your faith. “And their eyes were opened. They believed He was able. Do you believe He is able to help you solve your problem? Do you think He is qualified?

Now you may be convinced that He is able to do this. And You may not have a problem that He has the power and strength to move some mountains. But will He do it? Does He ever really accomplish this? He may be able but is He willing?

Psalm 57:2 “ I will cry to God Most HIgh, To God who accomplishes all things for Me. That means all things, Not only is He able He is the One who accomplishes all things for me.

Psalm 138:8 “The Lord will accomplish what concerns me.

Matthew 8: 6-7 “ Lord my servant is lying paralyzed at home, fearfully tormented. Jesus said to him. “ I will come and heal him.” He was both willing and able to do this. In all the records of the bible everyone who asked Jesus to heal them were healed. There is not one that He said” I don’t think so, you are such a sinner and besides you don’t deserve it.

Mark 1:40 “ A leper came to Jesus beseeching Him and falling on his knees before Him and said to him” If you are willing You can make me clean. Moved with compassion Jesus stretched out His hand and touched Him and said to him” I am willing be cleansed and immediately the leprosy left him and he was cleansed. He was willing and He was able and He accomplished it.

Isaiah 41:17 “ The afflicted and needy are seeking water but there is none. And their tongue is parched with thirst. I the lord will answer them Myself.

Isaiah 42:16 “ I will heal the blind by a way they do not know, on paths they do not know I will guide them. I will make darkness into light before them. and rugged places into plains. “ These thing I will do and I will not leave them undone. “

Wow! Put that in the bank. He is not only able but He is willing. He not only is willing but He will not leave it undone. He will accomplish all that He has promised. Use this in your situation that you have been facing. God can do this without your help. He really has been doing this for eternity.

Hebrews 11:30 “By faith the walls of Jericho fell down after they had been encircled for seven days.”

Faith is an interesting word. There is a man named Dr. Jerome Stowell who measured the wavelengths of faith. By actual instrumentation he recorded the brain of a woman who was in communication with God in prayer and the meter registered more than 55 times the power used to broadcast a 50 kilowatt station in sending a message around the world. So “faith” is very powerful and does attract power and emits a powerful signal.

Hebrews 11:33 “By faith they conquered kingdoms, performed acts of righteousness, obtained promises, shut the mouths of lions”, etc. All by faith in God’s word and His promises these things were accomplished. Aiko Hormann has an interesting term that she has coined called the “causal” realm. We all know of cause and effect. She states that we spend all our energies in the effect realm instead of the causal realm. What is the causal realm? It is the higher kingdom that is over the earth and whatever happens there then acts out on the earth. So why waste time in the wrong area? Jesus said His kingdom was not of this world and neither is ours. So we want to cause a change in the heavenlies so that the effect realm is changed.

Faith is the currency of heaven. Faith is the power that moves the arm of the Lord. Without faith it is impossible to please him. By faith they conquered kingdoms. Faith is stepping out not knowing where you are going, like Abram did. Faith is believing God will watch over His word to perform it. Faith is believing angels watch over His word to make it work. Faith is trusting God and faith comes from God. The faith we have is in God being able to do what He said He would do. J D has allergies. We believe that God wants this kingdom of disease torn down and destroyed.

By faith they quenched the power of fire, escaped from the edge of the sword, from weakness were made strong, became mighty in war and they put foreign armies to flight. The word of God says that we are seated far above all rulers and powers of darkness so that when we speak the word of God out of our mouth we are seated above our enemies and they are to become our footstool. The word of God in our mouth is like fire that burns, it is like a hammer that shatters, it is sharper than a two edged sword, it does not return void, it is like a lightning bolt, it is active and powerful, and it will put foreign armies to flight. Ezekiel 21:14 “says” When you prophesy and clap your hands together the Lord also claps His hands together and He appeases His wrath on His enemies. Verse 15 says their hearts melt and many fall at their gates.

Where we pray from is important. We are seated in the heavenlies in Christ so we must pray from the position of the heavenlies with the enemy under our feet.. He has seated us far above them and is making them a footstool Himself. He has put the word of God in our mouth and the word is like a consuming fire, like a laser beam of light, it is like a sword of lightning that strikes quick and fast, the word is a weapon of warfare for the destruction of fortresses and strongholds. Jericho is our stronghold of allergies and diseases. God has given us promises in His word. The first promise we are speaking from this realm is out of 2 Samuel 7:11 . It is written, “I will give you rest from your enemies” . We proclaim this on behalf of JD that God’s word would be carried out in full. That he would have total rest from the enemies that are allergies. Let the word go forth out of our mouth and not return void. Promise 2 is Deuteronomy 7:15 “it is written” The Lord will remove from you all sickness and He will not put on you any of the harmful diseases of Egypt which you have known but He will lay them on all who hate you. We speak this promise into the causal realm. Let the angels of God enforce this and let the Holy Spirit of God watch over this word to perform it. Also we judge the angels of darkness who have put on JD this allergy. Jesus has already paid the price for disease and sin and You are not allowed to put on JD what Jesus already bore on the cross. We demand this injustice taken care of in the causal realm.

Promise 3: “Deuteronomy 7:24 He will deliver their kings into your hand so that you will make their name perish from under heaven. No man will be able to stand before you until you have destroyed them.

Promise 4 Zechariah 2:8 “For thus says the Lord of Hosts. After glory He has sent me against the nations which plunder you, for he who touches you, touches the apple of my eye. “Enemies of the Lord you have touched J D and the word of God says if you touch him God will avenge and pay back many fold. Let this happen according to your word.

Promise 5 Deuteronomy 9:3 “Know today that it is the Lord your God who is crossing over before you as a consuming fire. He will destroy them and He will subdue them before you, so that you may drive them out and destroy them quickly, just as the Lord has spoken to you.

Our last promise comes out of the book of Ezekiel 21:14 “son of man, prophesy and clap your hands together(really three times) 15 (so) that their hearts may melt and many fall at their gates. 17: (when) you clap your hands I will also clap my hands together and I will appease My wrath I the Lord have spoken. When you clap your hands what happens is neural pathways and responses are being broken and in the spiritual realm the hearts of the demons melt and many fall at their gates. So this is to be carried out as when they walked around Jericho for seven days. We proclaim from the high places that the Lord has given us the word of God out of our mouth. Remember that the word is like a laser beam that penetrates the very depth of every creature on the face of the earth and under the earth. It is like a two edged sword. The clapping of the hands is very important and is to be done every day. The prophesy that we speak on the seventh day is out of Isaiah 19:16 “We speak the word of God” In that day, this day the Egyptians will become like women, and they will tremble and be in dread because of the waving of the hand of the Lord of Hosts, which He is going to wave over them. We speak against all allergies and disease that is afflicting JD will be as women in war and be in dread. As we lift holy hands unto the Lord without wrath and dissension Isaiah 11;15 “The Lord will utterly destroy the tongue of the Sea of Egypt and He will wave His hand over the River or like the Red Sea and with His scorching wind He will strike it into seven streams and men will walk over dry shod away from all allergies and diseases.

I think most everyone is familiar with the Proverbs 31 lady which goes like this:  “An excellent wife, who can find?  For her worth is far above jewels.  The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain.  She does him good and not evil all the days of her life.”

Sounds like a dream, impossibility, or is this the normal in the Christian marriage book?  My topic is not Proverbs 31 lady but the Proverbs “five lady” which seems to happen in a marriage when it breaks up into small pieces and the husband wondered what happened to this marriage?

This all stems from the many marriages that separate and seemed to be stalled on any reconciliation.  The woman stays pretty adamant about the separation and any attempt at counseling or reconciliation is met with strong opposition. No matter how much the husband tries to be “better” and change she is adamant about the situation. What has happened?? The man has created a Proverbs “five” lady with his marital efforts or lack of it.

What is a Proverbs five lady? In the book of Ecclesiastes 7:26 gives us a look at her.  It states, “And I discovered more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets, whose hands are chains.  One who is pleasing to God will escape from her, but the sinner will be captured by her.”

How did this woman that I married go into this condition?  Proverbs 5 says, “In the end she is as bitter as wormwood, her mouth sharp as a two edged sword. Her feet go down to death, her steps take hold of Sheol. She does not ponder the path of life, her ways are unstable, she does not know it.”

Doesn’t this sound familiar?? Isn’t this common when a woman leaves a marriage?

It seems that God has given a man responsibility to “cover” his wife from difficulties of life or “neglect her”.   Proverbs 31 lady was covered in prayer and the Proverbs “five lady” was neglected and left on her own to survive the marriage.  Ephesians 5:26 talks about the husband sanctifying her and having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word. I believe Paul is talking about praying for the wife and covering her with prayer and blessings.  You might say that the opposite of sanctification is unsanctification, which would be neglect to cover or pray for her.  Paul makes an observation in 2 Corinthians 11:3,  “But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness” so it seems that a woman is deceived by the craftiness of Satan. And 1 Timothy 2:14, “And it was not Adam who was deceived, but the woman being deceived, fell into transgression.”

Don’t you wonder where Adam was when Eve was tempted by the enemy?

Proverbs 6:24 talks about the woman, to keep you from the evil woman, from the smooth tongue of the adulteress. Also known as the foreign woman, another version says a strange woman. What this really is is a woman who I don’t know and one who most certainly doesn’t know me. All I get out of this woman is bitterness, anger, resentment, and criticism. Notice the term used here “adulteress” in the feminine use not adulterer as in the masculine sense. Have you tried to reason with your estranged wife about things and found that it doesn’t work? Have you tried to make sense out of what is going on and come up with no answers? Do you suppose that you are in for a spiritual battle and don’t realize who your enemy really is? Paul says in Ephesians 6:12,  “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but rulers, against the powers, against the spiritual forces of wickedness in the heavenly places.”

Wow, could I have allowed spiritual forces of darkness into my marriage? Is that why she does the strange things and speaks with such a bitter tongue? Even hates me and despises me? Is this really my wife or is this a spirit that I am struggling with?? Is there such as thing as a spirit of adultery? Or is there such a thing as a spirit of an adulteress? And then the big one that is tried in the flesh. I am so sorry for what I have done. I am so sorry, you see I will change, and then comes the gifts and the offerings to appease the spirits. The sorrow talked about is in 2 Corinthians 7:10, “it is the sorrow of the world that produces death.”  And it most certainly does, it is of the flesh, fleshly, sorrow for what I have lost, sorrow for what it cost me, sorrow for the humiliation of separation and divorce – but not Godly sorrow, at least not yet.

Proverbs 22:14 seems to be a companion scripture to Ecclesiastes 7:26.  “The mouth of and adulteress is like a deep pit:  He who is cursed of the Lord will fall into it.”  Maybe the man created this strange woman by his strange behavior and his neglect of Godly principals and has invited in a host of demons??  Maybe you don’t believe in demons but it really doesn’t matter because they want you not to believe in them.

Now here is hope. God is the God of the second chance. He always has an answer to every problem you will ever face. Proverbs 2:16 is the beginning of the promise. “To deliver you from the strange woman, from the adulteress who flatters you with her words.” Now remember your estranged wife is not the adulteress – she is Proverbs 31 lady which is “an excellent wife who can find whose worth is far above jewels.” But you say that is not what I see. Yes but that is how God sees your estranged wife and He wants you to start agreeing with him. He sees her not as an adulteress but as an excellent wife who does him good and not evil all the days of her life.

So how do I walk out of this?  How do I change what is going on??  First stop all works of the flesh, i.e. the flowers, the sorry thing, the promises, the apologies, and reasonings that aren’t working.  2 Timothy 2:25, “with gentleness correcting those who are in opposition if perhaps God may grant them repentance leading to the knowledge of the truth” (this is not for your wife this is for you). Do you realize that you can’t repent of your wrongs only God grants repentance as a gift?  If God does not give me the gift of repentance I will have the sorrow of the world which leads to death.   “So that I may come to my senses and escape from the snare of the devil” (sounds like the snares and nets in the strange women in the book of Ecclesiastes) ”having been held captive by him to do his will.”

John 16:23, “In that day you will not question Me about anything, truly, truly, (watch it when there are two trulys – it means business) I say to you, if you ask the Father for anything in My name, He will give it to you.” Repentance is a gift, only the Father in heaven can grant the gift of repentance. It comes about no other way, If you don’t have it don’t try to fake it.  2 Corinthians 7:9, “talks about being made sorrowful to the point of repentance, sorrowful according to the will of God (not the will of man).”  This Godly sorrow according to the will of God produces a repentance without regret leading to salvation but the sorrow of the world produces death.

In Psalm 51 David is confessing his sin of adultery with Bathsheba and the murder of Uriah. He ends up with the verse in 4. “Against You, You only, I have sinned and done what is evil in your sight, So that you are justified when you speak and blameless when you judge.” David had committed spiritual adultery against God before he did with Bathsheba. 2 Samuel 11:1, “Then it happened.” When you see the words then it happened it means it happened then. “In the spring, at the time when kings go out to battle, David stayed in Jerusalem.” (He must not have felt like going out to battle.) What is this scripture really all about. When kings go out to battle is the companion scripture in Ephesians that our struggle is not against the flesh but the rulers of wickedness the princes of the air, the demonic. It happened when David didn’t do spiritual battle in the season that he needed to. What David got was a passive spirit and it cost him dearly. How it could have been avoided. It says we are to imitate God. Be like him. What does He say about warfare. Isaiah 42:13, “The Lord will go forth like a warrior, He will arouse His zeal like a man of war, He will utter a shout, yes, He will raise a war cry, He will overcome His enemies.” He wants us to be fighters – not passive.

So here are the steps to take or as Henry Wright says the 5 R’s.  Repent, renounce, restore, reject, and rebuild what is lost.

Step one is to ask God for the gift of repentance for sinning against Him for being passive about spiritual warfare. Do as the son of God did in the Garden of Gethsemane He fell on His face in the presence of God. There is something about praying from this position of humility that turns the hart of God so that He grants the gift of repentance.

Step 2 is to confess the sin of spiritual adultery against God by having other gods before him such as the gods of the world,  the love of money,  the god of chronic dissatisfaction,  the god of excessive appetite of setting my mind on earthly things.

Step 3 is to confess the sin of witchcraft, praying what I want God to do in restoring the marriage instead of me listening to God and what He wants to do.

Step 4 is to fight as Nehemiah 4:14, “When I saw their fear I rose and spoke to the nobles, the officials, and the rest of the people.  Do not be afraid of them, remember the Lord who is great and awesome and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your houses.”

Step 5 is to use Psalm 62:5, “My soul wait in silence for God only,  He alone is my hope, He only is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold, I shall not be shaken.”